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Liat, Am having a really bad day-Friday afternoon AND still no contact with my daughter AND i can't stop crying. I keep blaming my husband as he talks to her but I don't feature in the conversation, Isn't this a sign of disloyalty on his behalf. Every time i pick him out he asks what can he do AND that I must just wait patiently. I feel so alone,lost AND abandoned by all. My psychol. too has told me to wait-- like you AND I feel better after talking to her but after a while my strength wanes AND i just feel i can't cope again. My innate fear is that with time my daughter won't want to talk ever again as 'out of sight, out of mind' During her childhood years we were also very close but she told my husband that everything has been blanked out- please note that she too is seeking counselling. I feel like we are all 'screwballs'!

ערב טוב קארן, להערכתי, הקשר בין בתך לאביה משמר ערוץ 'תת-קרקעי' גם אליך, ולא כדאי להפוך את זה למאבק בינך לבין בעלך. מבלי לערער על החוויה האישית שלך, נדמה לי שהקושי שלך נובע לא רק מתחושות של נטישה והתעלמות, אלא גם מתחושה של איבוד השליטה על התנהגותם והחלטותיהם של האחרים. זוהי סוגיה טיפולית חשובה, וכדאי לתת לה מקום בפגישות שלך עם הפסיכולוגית. אני חושבת שאם בתך תטופל גם היא, יש סיכוי טוב לעיבוד הכעסים הישנים, והכנת השטח לחידוש הקשר, במתכונת חדשה ושונה, שתתאים לצרכים העכשוויים של שתיכן. נסי לשמור על אופטימיות ורוח טובה, והמשיכי לעדכן. שבת שלום ליאת

Liat, Originally my daughter told me that when I have my 4th session I must ask her to come- well I sms'd her to come to the third session as I was worried that the 4th one would be too far away with all the hols. She refused- my 4th one is on MOnday. Should I sms her again OR leave it.? I am really scared to make contact - It was a little difficult for me understanding when you mentioned my husband's relationship with my daughter as 'tat karkait'- did you mean secretive OR simply a channel they are keeping open as she doesn't really mention me although my husband says that at times my name does come up- he too doesn't seem to fill me in with too much information. . I really am trying but have to confess that this is a nightmare for me as it has never happened before AND dammit I am not always the wrong one!