High and low
דיון מתוך פורום פסיכולוגיה קלינית
I have a problem. (Don't we all...) When I was a little girl, my parents didn't take me to "ma'akav", to watch over my hight status, even though I was the lowest in my class al the time. Now I'm 21 Years old, 1.48 cm. There's nothing to do now. I know. But It makes me so depressed, everybody around me are so tall and I'm always the little one. I have a boyfriend, which is tall. His former girlfriend was 1.70cm so he had to "adjust" but now he sais he has no problem with that. But I feel he has, and it makes me have a problem with myself. Of insecurity, like everyone is better than me or more beautifull than me or smarter than me. Even when we have sex I think It's bothering him. And when we go in the street, and he wants to give me a kiss he has to get lower. I feel uncomfortable with that. I would anything I mean anything to make me taller. I'm so depressed, I know there are worst things in life, but... why me? And all the time I am jelous about his ex girlfriend because she was tall and Beautiful. I don't know what to do, I hate myself. I don't look bad, but I hate myself. Because I'm small. Thanks 4 listening. If you have something to say other than "Klishaot" please do.
I don't know why the words has mixed up. But it just shows you how much everything I touch breaks, and how everything is against me. I have a problem. ) Don't we all...) over my hight status, even though I was the lowest in my class al the time. When I was a little girl, my parents didn't take me to "ma'akav", to watch Now I'm 21 Years old, 1.48 cm. There's nothing to do now. I know. IIhave a boyfriend, His former girlfriend was 1.70cm so he had to "adjust" but now he sais he has no problem with that. But I feel he has, and it makes me have a problem with tall. when we go in the street, and he wants to give me a kiss he has to get lower. me or smarter than me. Even when we have sex I think It's bothering him. And myself. I feel insecurity, like everyone is better than me or more beautifull than me are so tall and I'm always the little one. But It makes me so depressed, everybody around uncomfortable with that. I would do anything I mean anything to make myself taller. I feel I'm so depressed, I know there are worst things in life, but... why me? the time I am jelous about his ex girlfriend because she was tall and Beautiful. And all I don't know what to do, I hate myself. I don't look bad, but I hate myself. Because I'm small. 4 listening. If you have something to say other than "Klishaot" please do .Thanks
שלום אני חושב שסוף דבריך מספרים את תמצית העניין. את שונאת את מראיך ואת עצמך. העניין הוא לא הגובה. אין אף אחד מושלם ולכל אחד פגם אחר שאפשר למצוא, בחיצוניות ובפנימיות. את צריכה להתמודד עם העובדה שאת נמוכה באופן יחסי ועם ההשלכות של זה שמשפיעות עליך כבר שנים רבות. כמו שכתבתי, את הגובה אי אפשר לשנות, אבל את גובה הדימוי העצמי שלך יש אפשרות לשנות. מאחר ואני מתאר לעצמי שהסיפור לא התחיל מאתמול וממערכת היחסים הנוכחית כך גם הפתרון אינו אפשרי בצורה מהירה מאוד. אחת הדרכים לעבד ולהבין יותר את העניין ולטפל בו הוא באמצעות טיפול פסיכולוגי, ואם את מרגישה שהדברים פוגעים לך באיכות החיים הייתי מציע לך לפנות. בברכה ד"ר אורן קפלן