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Shalom, I really hope that you can help me with this: I am about 6 years divorced have two daughters ,ages 10 AND 9 I see them every second weekend. we have a very good contact. the older daughter misses me a lot especially after taking her(and her sister) back to their mother. until two weeks ago she could not call me after she went to bed(they go mostly around 21:00 to bed, AND they can read for about 1/2 an hour) so from time to time she told me that sometimes she cries in bed because she misses me so much. now since she has a mobile phone she calls me when she goes to bed AND mostly tells me how her day was etc. but yesterday she called me (few hours after bringing her back to her mother after a long weekend) AND cried AND said that she misses me so much, the only thing I could tell was that I love her so much AND that I miss her too, AND that we miss each other because we love each other AND that has also a positive part. I also told her that when she will be a bit older(and can come by herself) she may come whenever she feels like it, that she will have the key AND come AND stay with me as long as she would like to. I really don't know if I said the right things but that's what I thought would relax her for a while. can you please advice on how to take it from here. thanks in advance. Ben ps. the other daughter does not have that. she loves being with me but also feels good to go back after a weekend with me.

Ben Shalom, Can you read hebrew? Or-ly

Or-ly, I can read hebrew,I write in English because I don't have the hebrew fonts on my computer. Ben

שלום בן, מאוד התרגשתי לקרוא את מכתבך, את תיאור הקשר שלך עם בנותיך ואת הדיאלוגים עם בתך הגדולה יותר. אני שמחה לשמוע שיש כעת דרך נוספת לקשר ביניכם שמאפשרת יותר לבתך ולך. היכולת של בתך לבטא כך את רגשותיה בפניך היא נפלאה ומעידה על איכות הקשר ביניכם, על האמון שלה בך ועל התחושה שלה ש"יש עם מי לדבר", כך שגם מבלי לפתור את מצוקתה של הילדה קונקרטית, עצם קיומם של הדיאלוגים הללו ביניכם הוא בעל ערך רב ביותר. בנוסף לכך, דבריך אליה מאוד אמפתים, מכילים ומחזקים, ועשויים לעודד ולתת תקווה לעתיד. נשמע שאתה בדרך הנכונה, גם אם היא לא קלה. המשך כך! אור-לי

Or-li, thanks a lot for your response! Ben